What do you think having the “gift of gab” means?
In searching it out, I’ve found contradictory definitions. But one that seems to be prevalent is: “Having the gift of being able to speak easily and freely.”
I have to admit that I have envied these kinds of people in the past. Conversation, especially in a formal setting, doesn’t exactly come easily for me. But fire up my computer, and the words just flow like Popsicles melting on a 100 degree day! (That’s something we’ve been experiencing all too often around here in the midwest!)
Now I know there are those with this “gift” who clearly know how to include another person within a conversation. But sometimes conversing with someone who has the gift of gab, is like driving the wrong way on a one way street—you just might get run over by your chatty friend!
Please know that I am not just airing a pet-peeve here. I’m sending out a reminder to every one who tends to talk a little too much and not listen enough (and yes, that can be me too)! . . .
We don’t need to be afraid of the silence.
Remember the old saying, “Silence is golden?” That phrase probably was written by a frustrated friend of a “Chatty Cathy.”
Why do we need silence in a conversation?
- It brings calmness to the conversation.
- It offers the opportunity to think about what has just been said.
- Believe it or not, it allows for connections to form.
- Obviously, it offers the other person the opportunity to share his or her thoughts, which gives a sense of mutual enjoyment.
Here’s why I think some people are afraid of silence:
- Silence means I’m allowing you to accept or reject me.
- Silence means I’m trusting you enough to wait on you.
- Silence means I’m trusting that you’ll still find me interesting when I’m quiet.
- Silence means I’m willing to give up control.
- Silence means I’m willing to open up and let you approach me.
If you want to have intimate, close friendships, remember that silence is not a dead-end street, but a bridge to gap the distance between you and your friend.
For more thoughts on how to be more engaging in conversation, check out my past post: 2 Kinds of Listening.
Today’s post is linked to – No Ordinary Blog Hop