I’m a nuts and bolts kind of gal. I like to find the practical in just about everything. And like my frugal father who never wasted a drop of his bargain bottle Coke, I don’t want to miss a drop of useful insight so that I can pass it along to you.
So here are a few tools from my toolbox:
- Saying “no” isn’t selfish when someone is asking too much of you. In fact, it can be the most responsible choice at times.
- Recognize the only person you can change is yourself.
- Admitting your faults or weaknesses makes you look better to others, not worse.
- Choosing not to practice a good habit you want to establish in your life is not a neutral choice, but a negative one. It discourages that good habit from developing.
- You are responsible to others and for yourself—you are not responsible for others.
- You can be lonely—even the loneliest—in a relationship. In other words, a relationship is not the cure for loneliness.
- We are drawn to and try to recreate the familiar in our lives, even if the familiar is bad.
- Develop compassion for others by listening and learning about them. You cannot care for someone you do not fully know or understand.
Hopefully, one of the “tools” listed above is something you can use in a problematic relationship or situation. And don’t forget to let me know which ones are most helpful for you!