I don’t worry about what the back of my head looks like. Ironically, I tend to obsess about what the front looks like. I primp and spray and do all the things that would help it to look its best, but the back—not so much. I think that’s because I can’t see the back of my head. Sure, I know that others see it. But for some reason, because I can’t or don’t see it, it doesn’t matter as much to me.
I think that is the way humans operate. If we cannot see a problem in our lives, then we tend to think that there’s not a problem. We know on some level that others may see a problem we cannot see, but because we cannot see it or choose not to see it, we act as if it doesn’t matter.
Have you ever gone out in public with your fly down? Or what about having a piece of toilet paper stuck to your shoe? Or have you ever had an icky piece of spinach stuck between your two front teeth? Let’s ramp the scenario up a bit. What if you just happen to be with a friend who makes you laugh out loud, allowing your eyesore (or should that be “toothsore”) to be displayed for all to see, but you! If that laugh inducing friend tells you about your dangling doohickey, you might be grateful and laugh a little more about your faux pas. But you might also be embarrassed, uncomfortable, and begin to frantically forage for your floss.
These are minor examples of blind spots in our lives. It’s no big deal if we don’t do anything about them. But there are major blind spots that we need to open our eyes to on a daily basis. And unfortunately, what we don’t see very often matters more than what we do see. Allow me to point out some of those areas that are hidden in plain sight.
|What we see in ourselves||What we don’t see|
|That we are right||That we may be pushing others away with our arrogance|
|That we are living a morally good Christian life||That we have shut God out and are only doing religious rituals to please others|
|Our efforts to bite our tongue or to be kind when we are not treated so well||The resentments we’ve built up because we don’t feel respected|
|The unfairness of our life compared to our friend’s life||The fear that God does not love us or have good purposes for our pain|
|Our need to protect ourselves and keep pain at bay||The disconnect and stagnation that occurs because we keep others at arms length|
|What we see in our lives and world||What we don’t see|
|The person diagnosed with a terminal disease||The many times God encourages, strengthens and comforts the terminally ill person|
|The struggle to make ends meet||The many times God provides the money we need in the nick of time|
|The countless tragic accidents that kill millions every day||The many times God prevents or lessens what would have been a tragic accident from happening|
|The many terrorist attacks our nation has suffered||The many times God has protected our nation from terrorist attacks|
|The many times a co-worker has taken advantage of us or hurt us||The many times God softens and redirects the heart of an angry and abusive co-worker|
|The disease we’ve been diagnosed with or have lived with for several years||The many days, months and years God prevented that disease or other diseases from occurring in our lives|
|The fact that we are stuck in a situation that seems to have no answers||The many times God brings the right Bible passage or person across our path at just the right time to say exactly what we needed to hear|
If you are feeling discouraged in a relationship or in life in general, then ask God to reveal to you where you may have a blind spot. If you are persistent in prayer, He will bring to light what is in darkness. And you’ll be amazed at how the new view will change your perspective, attitude and life.
“Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.”
1 Corinthians 13:12 (NIV)